40 Years Today


The two of us in front of the autumn vine (mentioned in the poem the other day) May 11 1974

In the last two posts my wife and I have reflected, in poetry, on our 40 years together. I wondered at how quickly the time had passed but she thought more about the significant events enclosed by our marriage.

It made me ponder more deeply. In this time I have seen friends divorce and others tragically lose a partner. So I must praise God for keeping these two unique and stubborn individuals together and safe throughout those 40 years. Then I dug a little deeper and thought about the person that I was 40 years ago. To be painfully honest Pieter Stok, 40 years ago, was a naive, self centred and arrogant person. I can hear some of my friends say, “What’s changed?”


Signing our lives away.

I believe that I have mellowed and grown over those 40 years and this has all been due to a mystical combination of God using His Word, my wife, children, wider family and friends to grow me more like the person He wants me to be … and there is still a long, long way to go.

Now I know I wont get another 40 years of marriage this side of heaven but I am looking forward to what God still has in store for us. The journey to this point with its highs and lows, pains and joys has been amazing. I cannot imagine having gotten to this point with anyone else and I cannot express enough how thankful I am for the life partner He has given me.


So today we celebrate 40 years and anticipate a future.

Praise God!


With parents …


and siblings

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About Pieter Stok

I am passionate about faith, marriage and family. My interests include reading, video editing, travel and Lego. Also I find the older I get the more reflective I become. Whereas once I had answers for everything and everyone, now I have more questions.
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4 Responses to 40 Years Today

  1. mickqhs says:

    Congratulations Pieter and Hetty on not just “keeping it together” for 40 years but demonstrating to the world that your love reflects the love of Christ; something I call a Sacrament. Of all the things I admire in you both, your commitment to each other is right at the top. It has been a privilege witnessing your relationship grow over all those forty years and to see the way you have expressed your values in your life. As for you having been a “naive, self-centred, arrogant person” 40 years ago I can only say that the beam and the speck was often exchanged between the two of us and I hope both our eyes see clearer now.

  2. Pure Glory says:

    Congratulations on 40 years of marriage!

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