The Attic

It was our second last day in the Netherlands. We had been visiting family and driving around favourite and previously undiscovered attractions for two weeks. There was still one final visit – my last surviving aunty in Holland who had been married to my mother’s youngest brother.

My wife and I received an enthusiastic welcome. A cousin and her husband were also present and later a grandson arrived. After the pleasantries, coffee and cake there was a surprise, a box of books, letters, photos and other memorabilia that had been discovered in the house, that many years earlier, had been where my grandparents lived.

The story is amazing! The grandson (about 27) had been showing some relatives (two girls their 20s) around Rotterdam when they asked if they could see the place where their grandfather (my uncle) had been born. When they arrived, the grandson, being polite, knocked on the door of the house and asked the owner if minded if he took some photos of the girls in front of the house. “Not at all,” was the reply, “But maybe you can tell me if a box of material I found in the attic belongs to your family. I was about to take it to the Rotterdam archives.”

So, this is how these 80 to 90 year old treasures came back to the family. There was a wedding photo of my grandparents which included many other family members, letters from a nephew who was in a Spitfire squadron in Indonesia during the uprising in the late 1940s, pension slips, post cards, school books, books that had been presented by church and school to my aunts and uncles, and my favourite, a certificate belonging to my mother for completing her primary education at the “School met den Bijbel”.

This is particularly special because I have been involved in Christian Education in Australia all my adult life, as a parent, school board member, teacher, and now, grandparent. This certificate puts into perspective a history of family involvement in Christian Education. Even today, two of my daughters teach in Christian schools.

Psalm 78 speaks of telling our children God’s statutes, and “even the children yet to be born.” (v6) My mother as a 13-year-old had no idea of what the future would bring. There would be war and migration, but there were also children, grand children and great grandchildren who know God because God’s truth had been passed through the generations.

Driving away from my auntie that night, I had tears in my eyes and reflected how God’s Covenant promises work through generations; one generation passing on the truth to the next. This certificate also signifies the end of my mother’s formal education. She had to go to work to support her family in the years between the depression and the war. More importantly, it is a reminder to me of how faithful grandparents sent their daughter to a school that would support them in their parental task and, generations later, the impact is still felt.

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Faith in the West

There are times, many times, when I become despondent about the Christian faith in the west.  From its “me” centred  individualism and rampant selfish lifestyle, to glib culturally hip media presentations replacing authentic worship, and onto its lack of cutting edge into the 21stC mindset, there is much to depress me.

On Sunday we had a breath of life. A glimpse of the past and a possibility for the future. We attended a Lutheran church in Brønnøysund on the west coast of Norway – exactly halfway between the north and south. It was Palm Sunday and the children were incorporated into the service with palm branches. They presented the congregation with songs they had learnt for the occasion. There was also a baptism. Both mother and baby were dressed in traditional costumes. The church was full and there was a clear “buzz” of joy in the congregation. There was not a data projector to be seen. Psalters were handed out. Grandchildren hugged grandparents, friends greeted each other warmly and overall, there was a warm conviviality. It was clear that Jesus was present in the songs, words and attitudes.

It was an environment that a neighbour could be invited to. When an old man using a walker came in, a person vacated their seat, another got a cushion and a still another made sure he sat down safely. “Pastoral” care was obvious.

What have we lost with the obsession for mega churches, CEO’s and business teams running churches with smooth efficiency and ice cold hearts. It is difficult in these environments to share the highs and lows of life’s journeys and to celebrate and grieve together as the family we should be.

Am I just being a grumpy old man, or have we lost something, something precious, in our modern worship practices?

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Bullies and the Anti-Bully

A friend said to me recently, “you seem to be angry all the time.” He was expressing a concern for my welfare. I acknowledged that he was right. I do have a sense of anger mixed with a large dose of sadness. An acquaintance is being bullied by the elders in her church, the leader of the world’s most powerful nation leads in a way that comes from the classic bully’s handbook. Much of our social discourse is carried on in the language of put downs, abuse, ridicule, mockery and threats – the language of the bully. Examples being given by some leaders suggests to the population as a whole, and our young in particular, that this is an appropriate way to behave.

Bullies use their strength, power, authority and influence to ensure that they get their own way. They are usually supported by a body of sycophants who bow and scrape at the bully‘s commands and do anything to be accepted.

My trust and hope lies in the word that tells me the “meek shall inherit the earth” (Matt 5:5) and the “first shall be last” (Matt 20:16).

The gospel is the ultimate irony. The example of Christ is the complete opposite of that carried on by bullies. He is the anti-bully. He put aside his position as God to become one of us. He served instead of demanding, healed instead of breaking, embraced instead of shunning. Finally he gave his life for others. 

This is not just an example, it is a counter cultural way of life – a counter intuitive existence. 

For Christ followers it is a challenge. I am angry! But Christ calls for a different response to the path that, innately, I want to take.

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KRISTIANSAND

The wind was brisk, the sky sunny,and the waters blue as we entered Kristiansand harbour this morning. We ate breakfast and headed into town. Another ship 15 times the size of ours was also in town, and as we walked off our ship we encountered an avalanche of passengers, mostly from the UK on their Easter break, heading in the same direction.

In Kristiansand we encountered a delight – a free organ and piano recital  at the cathedral. The acoustics were superb in the wood lined  sanctuary. After an opening prayer, we were introduced to hymns and melodies of Norwegian origin. The organist also sang acapella – her voice ringing clearly.  My heart was lifted up by this praise to God. One wonders if other tourists were as affected as I was. The gospel shone clearly for half an hour.

After we left, the need for the gospel was also clearly on display. As we walked through the town we encountered, what seemed like drug affected people abusing each other and those, like us, who crossed their paths.

Currently I am sitting in the lounge of our ship watching containers being loaded and unloaded. The joy of music, the tragedy of drugs – but in the harbour life goes on.

Kristiansand Cathedral
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Parenting Children for a Life of Faith – Helping Children meet and know God: Rachel Turner, a review

Parenting Children for a Life of Faith – Helping Children meet and know God: Rachel Turner. Bible Reading Fellowship 2018

I am always on the lookout for resources to assist Christian parents in the amazing but terrifying task of discipling their children in faith. The good news is that I have come across two related resources which I can heartily recommend. One is a book and the second is a video series. My strongest encouragement is to get involved with both, but I know (as an ex-English teacher) that there are reluctant readers out there in parent land, so the video series is a minimum!

The Book:

Parenting Children for a life of Faith by Rachel Turner. (This is available from Koorong and Book Depository in an omnibus edition which includes Parenting Children for a Life of Purpose & Parenting Children for a Life of Confidence – (I haven’t yet completely read the latter two).

The Book: Parenting Children for a Life of Faith has the by-line “Helping children meet and know God.” The book includes chapters on modelling a relationship with God and countering wrong views of God. The chapter “Chatting with God” deals with the idea that our relationship is not just meant for set times of reading the Bible or devotions but is an all of life activity. I found this chapter particularly helpful although I would have liked to see a greater emphasis on Bible reading with regard to “hearing” from God. With that quibble aside it is very encouraging. There is also a separate chapter on more “formal” prayer. Another chapter that was very helpful was entitled “Surfing the waves” which is about making the most, as a parent, of the opportunities that arise in the ebb and flow of your child’s spiritual growth.

Other chapters include “Helping children engage with church” and “Starting well with under-fives.”

In part 2 of the omnibus she has a chapter on telling your children the whole gospel story from a young age. She adds examples as to how this can work. This, she suggests, helps children to make sense of the world and its brokenness from a young age. This important idea deserves an article/review just on its own as I found it a good antidote to the, often piecemeal, manner in which the gospel is presented to children.

Overall, I found the content to be practical and Biblical with an abundance of helpful examples. It is a book I wish I had had when I was a younger parent.

The Parenting for Faith Video Course

Rachel Turner also presents a (free) 8 part video course on the same topic. https://www.parentingforfaith.brf.org.uk/ For a sober lad like me her exuberance is sometimes overwhelming, however, putting that aside it is a very valuable resource. There are also downloadable handbooks available to lead you through the course. It is the type of course where it would be very valuable to meet with a few like minded parents and do it together over 8 weeks.

In an era where there are so many “attractions” vying for the heart of your child, here is a book and a video course which can develop your parenting skills in that crucial and eternally relevant arena of faith development. Parents of faith want their children to engage in a life under the Kingship of Jesus from the earliest possible moment.

Pieter Stok

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One Generation

A while back, my wife wrote a post that has continued to haunt us both – One generation from extinction. It speaks of the urgency of training and nurturing our children in faith – particularly in a post Christian world.

To this end, I am in the process of setting up a website/blog that collects and distributes resources that will enable parents and churches find material that will assist them in this crucial task. I would love to hear of books, websites and articles that have assisted you. Join us at Familyfaith.blog.

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In search of victimhood

A reflection from my wife …

The world is changing and I must adapt.

For about the first thirteen years of my life our family played a game called “Not Like Them”. I was reminded daily why we were different (read: better) than our neighbours. We didn’t wear plastic sandals. We had proper lunch boxes, not sandwiches wrapped in repurposed sugar bags. And more.

Of course we weren’t aware that in other ways we were different; ways my mother didn’t want to highlight because they meant we weren’t better.

This comparing took a distinct and particular aspect. It was always about being the best, or at least being seen to be the best. The “them” in our game were the unfortunates, the poor who lived in dirty houses, the kids whose parents didn’t know how to keep house, or wash, or sew.

But now our planet has tilted somewhat. Perhaps it could be said that the world I now inhabit has been turned on its head.

Because we are playing a different game and it’s called “Victimhood”. A race to get to the bottom. Not better than others; we only win if we can prove we are worse off. A victim.

A woman, aged, poor, indigenous, abused, with mental health issues, drug dependency, hidden acquired brain injury, gender dysphoria, gay, lesbian, or trans, on the spectrum, a victim of colonialism, or a tradie who can’t afford to pay his mortgage. Turn over these life cards and you’ll surely be a winner. 

It’s a game I do not want to participate in. The pastime of playing “Not Like Them” which involved looking down our noses at our neighbours, wasn’t very nice either. Is there another way? 

Can we recognise the challenges each and every person faces because of who they are or what life situation they’re in? Can we give a helping hand or a compliment? Can we live together differently because we are all unique? Can we honour one another as we stand together on a podium, not at the bottom?

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Sighisoara

We are in the middle of Romania in the Transylvania region during a cultural festival. Sighisoara is a town where ethnicities and religions collide. Lutheran, Orthodox, Catholic, Jew and Muslim are all part of the mix.

The incongruity is that blaring over the speaker at our campsite swimming pool is a collection of American musical rubbish.

It is a privilege to be in a place where history has been made in the furnace of conflict and interaction. At least this weekend’s festival is an intercultural affair. Every group is invited to be part of the presentation. We attended a concert in which Hungarians in Romania, Jews as well as Romanians took part. Over the week many more ethnic groups had been involved. 

From a religious perspective the Lutheran church is part of the long Saxon presence in this area. The German Catholics converted to Lutheranism at the time of the Reformation. The Orthodox church represents the Hellenic and the Catholic Church has been a presence for even longer. The Jews, of course, have even wandering this part of the world for 2000 years.

It has been an eye opener to come here and learn more about a part of the world I had known so little about.

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Heading East

After picking up our car in Lyon, we have been heading east. First a campsite in the  south of lake Geneva and then two nights just south of Zurich. Here we made contact with two couples who are friends with one of our daughters. For two nights we were regaled by genuine and near genuine Swiss!

After a hair raising trip through the Austrian Alps we camped at Unterpefuss. The trip though the alps was spectacular. One can only imagine what it is like in winter. Jagged rocks, mountainous crags, winding roads and all the while, spectacular views made this a memorable journey. 

Now we are headed for Wien and Bratislava- these capitals are very close.

Wien/Vienna was flooded with tourists. This always makes me uncomfortable as I feel it is a huge imposition on the local population. Bratislava was more low key. There were tourists but they weren’t overwhelming the city. We loved the castle and churches as well as the architecture of the old town. The castle displayed the history of Slovakia in a very engaging manner.

We travelled further east to Orsava Castle. The countryside is beautiful but even the back roads are clogged with semi trailers. While in this area we also travelled to Krakow to visit the salt mines at Wieliczka. Tourism on a large scale again. The mines were fascinating but unfortunately our guide seemed bored with the whole task and her English was difficult to understand. The group behind us had a guide who was dramatic, enthused and engaged with his followers.

We are now heading south through Hungary to Romania.

The castle Bratislava
St Martin’s Bratislava
Orsava Castle

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Burying our Children – a blog from the past

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