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The Attic

It was our second last day in the Netherlands. We had been visiting family and driving around favourite and previously undiscovered attractions for two weeks. There was still one final visit – my last surviving aunty in Holland who had been married to my mother’s youngest brother.

My wife and I received an enthusiastic welcome. A cousin and her husband were also present and later a grandson arrived. After the pleasantries, coffee and cake there was a surprise, a box of books, letters, photos and other memorabilia that had been discovered in the house, that many years earlier, had been where my grandparents lived.

The story is amazing! The grandson (about 27) had been showing some relatives (two girls their 20s) around Rotterdam when they asked if they could see the place where their grandfather (my uncle) had been born. When they arrived, the grandson, being polite, knocked on the door of the house and asked the owner if minded if he took some photos of the girls in front of the house. “Not at all,” was the reply, “But maybe you can tell me if a box of material I found in the attic belongs to your family. I was about to take it to the Rotterdam archives.”

So, this is how these 80 to 90 year old treasures came back to the family. There was a wedding photo of my grandparents which included many other family members, letters from a nephew who was in a Spitfire squadron in Indonesia during the uprising in the late 1940s, pension slips, post cards, school books, books that had been presented by church and school to my aunts and uncles, and my favourite, a certificate belonging to my mother for completing her primary education at the “School met den Bijbel”.

This is particularly special because I have been involved in Christian Education in Australia all my adult life, as a parent, school board member, teacher, and now, grandparent. This certificate puts into perspective a history of family involvement in Christian Education. Even today, two of my daughters teach in Christian schools.

Psalm 78 speaks of telling our children God’s statutes, and “even the children yet to be born.” (v6) My mother as a 13-year-old had no idea of what the future would bring. There would be war and migration, but there were also children, grand children and great grandchildren who know God because God’s truth had been passed through the generations.

Driving away from my auntie that night, I had tears in my eyes and reflected how God’s Covenant promises work through generations; one generation passing on the truth to the next. This certificate also signifies the end of my mother’s formal education. She had to go to work to support her family in the years between the depression and the war. More importantly, it is a reminder to me of how faithful grandparents sent their daughter to a school that would support them in their parental task and, generations later, the impact is still felt.

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One Generation

A while back, my wife wrote a post that has continued to haunt us both – One generation from extinction. It speaks of the urgency of training and nurturing our children in faith – particularly in a post Christian world.

To this end, I am in the process of setting up a website/blog that collects and distributes resources that will enable parents and churches find material that will assist them in this crucial task. I would love to hear of books, websites and articles that have assisted you. Join us at Familyfaith.blog.

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In search of victimhood

A reflection from my wife …

The world is changing and I must adapt.

For about the first thirteen years of my life our family played a game called “Not Like Them”. I was reminded daily why we were different (read: better) than our neighbours. We didn’t wear plastic sandals. We had proper lunch boxes, not sandwiches wrapped in repurposed sugar bags. And more.

Of course we weren’t aware that in other ways we were different; ways my mother didn’t want to highlight because they meant we weren’t better.

This comparing took a distinct and particular aspect. It was always about being the best, or at least being seen to be the best. The “them” in our game were the unfortunates, the poor who lived in dirty houses, the kids whose parents didn’t know how to keep house, or wash, or sew.

But now our planet has tilted somewhat. Perhaps it could be said that the world I now inhabit has been turned on its head.

Because we are playing a different game and it’s called “Victimhood”. A race to get to the bottom. Not better than others; we only win if we can prove we are worse off. A victim.

A woman, aged, poor, indigenous, abused, with mental health issues, drug dependency, hidden acquired brain injury, gender dysphoria, gay, lesbian, or trans, on the spectrum, a victim of colonialism, or a tradie who can’t afford to pay his mortgage. Turn over these life cards and you’ll surely be a winner. 

It’s a game I do not want to participate in. The pastime of playing “Not Like Them” which involved looking down our noses at our neighbours, wasn’t very nice either. Is there another way? 

Can we recognise the challenges each and every person faces because of who they are or what life situation they’re in? Can we give a helping hand or a compliment? Can we live together differently because we are all unique? Can we honour one another as we stand together on a podium, not at the bottom?

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I am excited!

Never in my wildest imagination did I think I would ever assist in the publication of a book. However, my wife’s book, “Wells for Shepherds” has been an exciting publishing adventure. Even more thrilling have been the responses we have been getting. These show that people have read the book, reflected on its serious intention and have been challenged and encouraged by it.

Below is some of the feedback we have been getting:

I really appreciate the style and design of Wells for Shepherds. I realise that it might seem odd to start with that, but I also have come to recognise how important it is – and how much effort it takes – to get this part right. I also appreciate the first few pages of framing. Again, this might not be what people usually comment on, but I think it does a great job in prompting people toward a healthier understanding of the way children can engage with the Bible – which then will, hopefully, inform their practice as adults engaging with children around the text. In terms of the content itself, I appreciate the clarity and brevity of the individual elements. My observation is that good story-telling – including the use of puppets – is in danger of becoming a lost art in the context of children’s ministry. Through these stories that can be used intergenerationally, I hope people can be encouraged in the re-discovery of the value of such story-telling for all ages. Chris Barnett, Intergen Victoria

If I had to sum it up in one word it would be captivating. I had to limit myself to one or two a night, so I could make sure to really process the stories, but I wanted to read, and read, and read. I really enjoy that it takes me inside a Bible story, a different view, without distorting or disturbing the truth. I loved the way the puppet play style stories were succinct and effectual in delivering a really concise and convincing way. They seem geared towards younger audiences, but I definitely found myself thinking about ways I could use it, in church and Sunday school etc. The hard part for some, I think more old-school and traditional folks, is the idea that there are Bible stories “re-imagined”, but I think that once people open and start to read, those hesitations will melt away. Thanks Hetty for a wonderful book! Luke

My kinda book! LOVE reading with kids and engaging them in stories about Jesus. M.A.

This anthology can be used in schools, church services, Sunday schools, at home or camps or home fellowship groups. Jo.

Thank you Hetty for creating a book that leads us back to the original text, and creates rich conversations and discussions. K.C.

A great concept! Well done. Jackie

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Parenting

Below is an article on parenting that I wrote many years ago … it is still relevant

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From Generation to Generation

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Wells for Shepherds

Publishing a book is not for the faint-hearted! I have spent the last few months on the enjoyable and challenging task of getting my wife’s stories out into the wide world. In the process I discovered that many of my past computer skills were no longer up to scratch. Time and updates had made my skills obsolete. Fortunately, the skills required could be found among my daughters. So when my Photoshop or Indesign talents were lacking there was help at the end of a telephone line (now that is an old fashioned term).

ISBNs, publishing techniques, finding publishers and printers, ePubs, sales tax and a host of other demands crammed my poor brain. But finally we stumbled to the line and now the book is ready – in print and ePub.

Why did I bother? Simply, because my wife is a great storyteller and these stories are a marvellous way of getting into the Bible. She enables us to wonder and explore and think more deeply about the eternal truths of Scripture. Anyone one who reads these stories for themselves or to their children or grandchildren will, I believe, be blessed.

To find Wells for Shepherds go to your favourite ebook site or

Wells for Shepherds

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A New Book Soon!

I have been spending time trying to get my wife’s book ready – hopefully it will be available soon. We are excited as the proofs should arrive this coming week. I will write more about it in the coming days.

Coming in Print and ePub

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The Pornification of our Culture

Currently I am reading Carl R. Trueman’s brilliant unpacking of our contemporary social morass in his book, The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self. This mind-bending unravelling of the nature of modern identity in the West is a “must read”. However, I just want to reflect on one chapter: Chapter 8 – The Triumph of the Erotic. In this chapter Trueman explores how Surrealism, inspired by the likes of Marx but particularly Freud, made a concerted attempt to destroy Christianity via the means of a sexual revolution.

The author traces how this process has worked in what he describes as the “pornification of mainstream culture.” We see this in more recent times through the rise of Hugh Hefner’s Playboy magazine in the 1960s through to explicit sexual acts in mainstream television and films in the 2000s. There has been an increasingly overt wearing down of the old sexual morals. What was once hidden  in dark places is now celebrated out in the open. As he points out, in today’s context Hefner looks conservative. Now porn in every aspect our culture is the norm.

The author then goes on to look at the implications for violence particularly towards women, and the impact of this revolution on the feminist movement as a whole.

My precis is brief and insufficient, however, the question this chapter raises for me is, how do we protect our children from this inescapable onslaught? In some ways contemporary society must resemble the situation of the early church in a pagan environment in which the culture was etched into every aspect of daily life. How do you grow up faithful to the gospel in such an environment?

Here are some thoughts, but I would love readers to add their contributions as well. For the church, this is a communal issue in which community must play a crucial role in the response:

  1. Nurturing faith must be a parent and church’s highest priority. Faith is both the foundation for protection but also the restorer when failures occur.
  2. Modelling within the family and church is key: what we say, what we watch, how we respond to the inappropriate must always be consistent with our faith. Children watch our every move and are expert at detecting hypocrisy.
  3. Nurturing responsibility is also important. Age-appropriate steps in trust and responsibility are essential. Teaching strategies in reading and watching and choosing what to read and watch is essential.
  4. Many of the practical parenting ideas given (by a variety of programs) with regard to the internet are helpful, but ultimately children need to be responsible for their own choices and action.

These are just a few broad ideas. But Carl Trueman is right when describes this as an assault. The “pornification of our society” is an attack on faith, the family and the church. There are many who see these as outdated institutions. Therefore, we must be prepared to defend these institutions vigorously and passionately with the welfare of the most vulnerable foremost in our mind.

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Sorting Photos

Over the last few weeks I have been sorting through my parents’ photos and putting them into a visual diary. This requires some research: who are they, where was it taken, when was it taken, and so on. I have pestered relatives for information to try to uncover some of the mysteries. Some photos, thankfully have some details scrawled on the back. The problem is that most of the people in the old photos have passed on a long time ago. Google search and maps have been handy companions but there is only so much they can tell you.

My father, left, as a 17 year old

The process however, especially with the old photos is an emotional one – my dad as a 17 year old rugged up in a heavy coat. What were you thinking dad at the time this photo was taken? Where did you expect your life to lead? There are the photos of his time as an indentured worker in Germany. I see camaraderie and youth but not too many smiles. The Christmas Tree in 1943 is particularly evocative. And then there is the eerie doubly exposed photo of a young woman superimposed on what seems like a park. I have this faint memory that this was a girlfriend before my mother came on the scene. Why was this photo kept? I know my mother wanted it to be thrown out.

The mysterious double exposure

There are photos of Rotterdam before it was bombed by the Germans and then the Allies with the Kestein bicycle factory (thank you Google) with a loaded wagon pulled by draught horses. Another time and place. A world away from 2020. There are bicycling holidays after the war. What were your hopes then, dad, when so much had happened and when a blanket of pain and suffering had settled over Europe.

The sorting is a slow process as you can’t help but look at the photos and ponder as you try to sift behind the black, white and grey images and the softly fading faces.

My father, back left, in Hennigsdorf, Germany
Rotterdam before the war
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